him if I want to." The child tries to manipulate children or adults into touching his or her genitals or causes physical harm to his or her own or others genitals. Other children repeatedly complain about the childs sexual behaviors - especially when an adult has already spoken to the child. The child continues to behave in sexual ways in front of adults who say "no," or the child doesnt seem to comprehend admonitions to curtail overt sexual behaviors in public places. The child appears anxious, tense, angry, or fearful when sexual topics arise in his or her everyday life. The child manifests a number of disturbing behaviors having to do with toilet habits: plays with or smears feces, urinates outside the bathroom, uses excessive amounts of toilet paper, stuffs toilet bowls to overflowing, or sniffs or steals underwear.     The childs drawings depict genitals as the predominant feature.   The child manually stimulates or has oral or genital contact with animals.   The child has painful and/or continuous erections or vaginal discharge.   If you discover that your child is showing any of the above signs, consult a professional - starting with your pediatrician - to find out whether a prob- lem exists. Dont try to confront this situation by yourself. Even an expert may have difficulty trying to discover the truth when dealing with a child, and your efforts may only frighten the child so that youll never find out whether anything is wrong.     The Accidental Voyeur   I dont want you to worry about the time your child accidentally catches you making love. This situation happens to plenty of couples, and, if you dont make a big deal of it, the child probably wont realize what was going on, and there will be no consequences whatsoever.   The danger to children comes not from an accident, but from repeatedly seeing material not suited to their age. You certainly know that, if you show a small child a horror movie, that child will have nightmares. Well, if you let children watch shows that have a high sexual content, they may have the equivalent to a nightmare, only, instead of scaring them, it may play havoc with their libidos.   Knowing that Mommy and Daddy love each other is important for children. If you and your spouse kiss and hug in front of your child regularly then,